Dec 9, 2019
We have entered a surreal world when people mix up the two prime
leadership traits. Responsibility is an individual action trait.
Accountability is what leaders have regarding the actions of
No one is responsible to any other persons actions. We can only be
held accountable if we made an agreement, or knew better, or once
informed did nothing. But let me tell you as a leader never mix
these two prime traits up or the environment around you becomes
chaos or like Lord of the flies.
So what happens when you mix them up or do these wrong.
- If somehow you let others convince you that you are responsible
for the actions of someone else. Then the next horrifying virtual
reality gets conjured up: it is called blame. Blame is the first
fall of humans who are convinced responsibility is one to the
- The second terrifying fall is the mental condition you will
convince yourself of when you screw up being responsible for your
own actions. And that is entitlement or the condition it causes:
lacking the deep knowledge that relentless practice is what you
must do to better yourself.
- The third ill fated twist is when leaders don’t account for the
actions of others. When the team screws something up, the ill fated
leader looks at the person not the action. The count the person as
the problem not the action and never correct the action through
research, training, and adjusting. Fire the person and guarantee
the next person will slip on the banana peel again.
Ok what happens when the prime traits are handled correctly by
leaders and individuals?
- People make mistakes then the person who made it stands up and
fesses up no matter how gross the mistake. They make a new
agreement and adjust to deal with the issue. No one blames anyone
else and the team consolidates around the person and the problem
and get back on it.
- Once you realize you are not entitled to anything at all, not
even breathing or life then you get to work on bettering yourself
and everything around you. You practice like it matters. You keep
cleaning up spills, you keep adjusting you to the
- Leaders start planning and considering actions required to
succeed not personalities. Begin training people to do actions that
is the key aspect.
Alas it seems the opposite happens rather often.
Violence is blamed on everyone else than the one who did the
violent thing. Mom or dad is blamed. Cops are blamed. Leaders are
blamed. The other driver is to blame. The dumbest thing I have ever
heard is blaming violence on guns. Blame never resolves the
incident from happening the first time or again and again.
Everyone will hate me for saying but if you don’t want to get rid
of violence first hold the one who done it responsible
Then train everyone to carry a gun and know how to use it and what
to do in the face of violence.
We seem to pay too much attention to social media and often news.
No one is entitled to money, a job, or being treated right, or a
trophy or a job or a degree. No one deserves anything. And that is
a good thing my friends. You will only get the thing you want when
you practice and are relentless and earn it. Earn it works try
Guns don’t kill people, people kill people that is just a
Different colored skin doesn’t mean you deserve a leg up or deserve
to be beaten down. Just get to it.
It literally takes 1000 attempts and anything to be an amateur. It
takes 10,000 times to get to a point to decide if you are good or
bad at it. It takes a life time to earn it.
Blame is for the weak and down trodden and lost. Because blame
doesn’t help anyone get better.
Own up to every action you take the good and bad and missed
opportunities are yours to be responsible for. Adjust and try
again. Lead people to try again.
Earn food, earn your clothes, earn first or last place, earn the
love of your partner, don’t expect any of it.